Happy Birthday

It's Kathryn's birthday today. We were wondering whether we should do anything to remember the occasion. We had just lost another member of our family to cancer this week - my brother in law. He was an active lay leader in the Klang Methodist Church.

I decided to make a visit to the Fairy Park Memorial Park in Klang. It was raining when I reached there and I had to wait for about half an hour in the car as the rain gradually petered out. During that time I took out my iPhone to play some of Kathryn's favourite worship songs by Terry Macalmon as I imagined how she must have liked to hear.

It was a solitary moment after the rain as I stepped out later to place the flowers that I had brought along with me at her site. There was no one else around apart from a gardener that I saw making his rounds. The rains like the last visit we made had cooled down the place quite a bit after the blistering hot afternoon.

It is a quiet birthday celebration without her. I spent some quiet moments reflecting on the good times we had and told her how much I missed her. The pain and the tears were still there. I left the Park still listening to some of the worship songs as I made my way to office.

Later in the evening, the children and I had a quiet Japanese dinner in Sunway to remember their mother's birthday. We talked and reflected. We laughed. Kathryn was very much with us in our hearts. Yati our domestic help for the last ten years was with us. She was feeling much like a member of the family.

This is the first birthday celebration for Kathryn that we have had without her. I'm glad we did something to remember her. I'm sure there is also a celebration in heaven for her.

Happy Birthday, my dearest.